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Dear Abbie: I am a six month old lab and I am very fond of my foster mom. I love to follow my mom around, get under her feet and most of all give her kisses all the time. She sometimes gets annoyed with me and she doesn't understand why I am so attached to her. When she takes me to puppy class I do everything she asks me to, but I don't like to do those things for anyone else. In fact, when she hands me over to others in the group I tend to freak out. I bark, jump, whine, cry and really make a big deal out of it. At home she lets everyone sit with her and lay on the bed with her, but not me. I wish my mom would cuddle me like she does everyone else. I try over and over to get her attention by jumping up on the furniture and on her, but she always tells me to get down! Do I love my mom too much? How will I be able to leave her when it is time to go? —Puppy Love Dear Love~ You said it! You definitely love your mom too much. Some dogs bond tightly with just one person, and their world just seems to fall apart when they have to deal with anyone else. Being able to bond that closely with a human is a fabulous thing—when that person is your blind partner—but as a puppy being raised, that same bonding makes things harder. When you leave your mom for harness training, you will have to bond with your new trainer. Then you will have to leave your trainer and bond with your blind person. Your mom needs to help you learn to cope with these transitions so you do not become so overwhelmed with stress in training that you never make it to your blind partner. Sounds like your mom already trades you at puppy meetings, and that's a good thing. She's trying to help you learn that the world doesn't end just because she's not with you. It would be best if the people who take you are experienced, confident handlers. That way, when you begin to freak out, they will be able to help you calm down and mind your lessons. Your mom should also set up trades with other raisers where you can stay at their house for at least a week. This seems like a long time, but a week will give you long enough to adjust to the new surroundings and routine in a way you just can't do in one or two days. Pretty soon you will find out that there are lots of other people in the world who are nice and who can take care of your needs just as well as your beloved mom. Helping you become comfortable and confident with other people is one of the best gifts your mom can give you, because at least while you're in training, your life will be filled with transitions. With a little help and a lot of trading while you're growing up, you'll do just fine! Dear Abbie: My raiser took me downtown, and I was doing great, calm on the light rail, no reactions to statues, and calm around traffic. I even relieved on command. Oh sure, I was pulling at the leash, but so were all the other pups. Then, as we were sitting outside resting, a horse drawn carriage came along and I absolutely lost my brain! I panicked and tried to run away. I wrapped the leash around my raiser and pulled so tight she couldn't move in her chair. We stopped by the horse staging area on our way back. My raiser let me stay way back, and she and others took turns getting horse smell on their hands for me to sniff. But I couldn't focus to save myself. I hope my raiser never takes me near horses again! If she does, I don't know what I'll do! Help! --Oh, Horse Feathers! Dear Feathers: I remember freaking out when I saw my first horse, too! Fortunately, I never had to deal with horses, but some Guides do live in rural areas, or work in cities where there are horse-drawn carriages, so it's important that you get used to them. That can be difficult for a suburban pup! Your raiser definitely should seek out places where there are farm animals—like the Littleton Historical Museum, or parks with petting zoos, so you can get use to the smells and noises they make. Perhaps there is a raiser in your group who is involved with horses, and you could go along to visit. I suspect sensory overload fueled your panic. After a night of dealing with the new sights and smells of the city, perhaps a horse clopping along was the one thing too much. You may find that in a quieter setting, you will be much calmer when meeting members of the equine set. Tell your raiser to record the incident on your monthly report and mention it in your project report when you go back, including whether you were able to overcome your initial fears. Then the trainers will be able to make an appropriate placement for you, so horses will not be a make-or-break issue for your career. Dear Abbie: Once my raiser thought I should climb some really nasty stairs that I could see through. Naturally, I refused. Another time she had the notion I should go over a bridge–but underneath the water was rushing so loud, it sounded like a lion roaring! I was so scared, all I wanted to do was get out of there, so I backed up and refused that, too. Both times my raiser got really mad and jerked and jerked my collar trying to make me do what she wanted. That only made want to get away from her, too! She finally gave up and we went home. Why is she so mean to me when I am afraid? –Cringing in Colorado Dear Cringe: Sounds like your raiser mistook your fright for stubbornness. She corrected you for refusing to cooperate when you needed her support and help. Sometimes raisers try force a dog to do something because they really need to go somewhere, are embarrassed by your refusal, or are in a hurry. Trouble is, force only leads to more fear–and fear never leads to the success of a Guide Dog. It’s important for raisers to plan outings that are age and skill appropriate for their puppy and be prepared to leave if the dog starts getting in over its head. A raiser can instill confidence, even in a balky dog like you. When you refuse something, she can help you realize that you really can handle the situation by encouraging you in upbeat, matter-of-fact tones. If something is really overwhelming you, it’s much better for her to leave and try another day than to use force and cement your fear. Over the next few days or weeks, she can return to the place and help you get closer and closer to the scary bridge or further up the open stairs, until you can do it with self-confidence. By supporting you without coddling or forcing, she can build your self-assurance so you gain confidence and can go on to be a wonderful working Guide! Dear Abbie: Every once in a while, the sky gets dark during the day. It smells like there’s something wrong with the air, but my humans don’t seem to notice. After a while, there are these horrible booming noises! The noise is everywhere all at once and nowhere feels safe except right up next to one of my humans. They pat me and keep telling me it will be all right–but I think really they are scared, too. They tell me I’ll have a hard time being a Guide if I’m a coward, but I can’t help it. What am I going to do? –Cowering in the Corner Dear Corner: The phenomenon you are describing is called a thunderstorm, and we have a lot of them in Colorado. They are disturbing, it’s true, because we dogs are so sensitive to changes in our surroundings. Your humans cannot change the weather, but they can help you feel better about it. The first thing they need to do is make sure you are never left alone in the yard when a thunderstorm might come up. Not only could you develop a permanent fear of thunder, but you could be injured by hail or get scared enough to try to break out of the yard and run away. Sounds like your humans are trying to console you when you’re afraid. They don’t realize that their reassurances only convince you that there really is something to be scared of. It’s as though they were praising you for feeling fear. Instead, they should be very matter-of-fact about the thunder, taking little or no notice of it. They can play with you with your Kong or tug ring if you feel up to it, or brush you if you enjoy that, during the storm. These normal, pleasant activities will help you realize there is nothing to be done about thunder and help you keep calm. Ask your humans to get a tape of thunder sounds and play it on clear days. They can play with you or brush you while the tape runs so you learn to associate the sound with pleasant things. Then when you hear a real storm, you might not even notice it. My raiser used to play a thunder tape all the time when I was little, so when the real thunder came, I was already used to it. With your human’s help, you can overcome your fears and go on to become a fabulous Guide Dog. |
| RETURNING DOGS, CAREER CHANGE & GRADUATION |
Dear Abbie: My raiser is feeling sad. She says the first dog she raised got career changed today. She keeps looking at me, wondering what she can do differently to make me graduate. How can I cheer her up? –Puppy Number Two Dear Number Two: I’m sorry to hear about your raiser’s career change dog. Raisers always want their dogs to become Guides, so it’s really hard on them when the dog they raised is better suited to a different career. Sounds like your raiser feels extra sad because she thinks the career change is somehow her own fault. It isn’t. After about phase three of harness training, dogs move way beyond the basic obedience that raisers teach. They have to learn right from left, how to walk in a straight line, and to leave room so the person holding onto their harness doesn’t run into anything. They must take more and more responsibility for their partner, and eventually need the courage to disobey their partner’s commands if obeying them would put the team in danger. A Guide Dog takes responsibility for its partner’s safety–even for his life! In truth, only about half the dogs that start training are able to make it as a Guide Dog. The best raiser on earth cannot “make” a dog graduate. A dog either has the heart for the work, or it doesn’t. All your raiser can do is give you your best chance to be a Guide. She can help you prepare for training by loving you and following all the training techniques that her leaders and PRA teach, but whether or not you graduate will depend on you, not your raiser. Now, go give her a big sloppy kiss and tell her you’ll always love her and remember her, no matter what career path you eventually decide to take! Dear Abbie: My raiser is driving me nuts! She corrects me for stuff that she didn’t used to even notice. Worse yet, she’s gone all emotional on me. Sometimes she hugs me and cries. Other times she seems not to even want to be near me. She’s acting so weird I’m afraid to leave her out of my sight. I feel it’s my duty to try and cheer her up. I bring her everything I can find, like the TV remote, the portable phone, even dirty Kleenex from the trash can. The things I give her ought to make her happy, but it just makes her worse. What’s wrong with my raiser? –Sign Me Raiser Gone Haywire Dear Haywire: I hope you’re still in town to read this, because my guess is that you are scheduled to go off to Guide Dogs for training soon. Your raiser’s problem can be expressed in three words: Returning Dog Syndrome. Many raisers develop RDS in the last few weeks before their dogs are recalled for training. Yours has all the classic symptoms. She hugs you because she can’t bear to let you go, then pushes you away because she doesn’t want it to hurt when you leave. Your raiser has a particularly bad case, being tough on your minor mistakes in a misguided effort to hone your manners before she lets you go. I hate to tell her, but if she hasn’t taught you good manners right along, being tough on you now won’t help. A sensitive dog like yourself can’t help picking up on her turmoil, so you get clingy and bring her presents like TV remotes. I knew one pup so stressed by her raisers’ RDS that she started eating their underwear! My raiser came down with RDS a full three months before I was scheduled to go. It would have been far easier on us both if she could have enjoyed the time we had left together. Fortunately, overlooking human failings is a strong suit for us dogs. You’ll be on your way to Guide Dog school in no time, and when you see your raiser at graduation, you’ll forget about her Returning Dog Syndrome and be ecstatic to see her–I promise! |
| Dear Abby: My mom and I were just walking along the mall when this man coming from the other direction ran his hand down my back from my head to my tail, without so much as a by-your-leave! Pretty soon here comes a little kid, and she does the very same thing. It was a long outing, and there must have been at least five people who snuck a pet that way. I was so distracted! Don't they see my puppy coat? Aren't people supposed to ask before they pet me? --Pestered by Petting Dear Pestered: I see you have experienced the “fly-by pet.” Lots of people do it, even though they shouldn't. It is terribly distracting, but I'm afraid the fly-by pet is something that working guides deal with daily. Your raiser can try to politely educate people that they should always ask before they touch a working dog. She can gently explain that a Guide may get so distracted that its work could become unsafe, and the blind person may not even know why! It's important to emphasize that the blind person may say “no” when asked, because the dog needs to concentrate on its job. With children, your raiser can give a little safety lesson, telling the child not to touch any dog without asking: it's impossible to tell if a dog is nice just by looking at it! If your raiser has time, and you are calm, it's okay for you to sit for pets, if the person asks. That will give your raiser a little time to educate the person about Guide Dogs for the Blind and etiquette around working dogs. I'm sure, when your raiser doesn't want people to pet you, that she's courteous about it, in order to leave a positive impression. Unfortunately, there will always be people willing to sneak a pet when they think no one is looking, so it is best get used to it now—it will be part of your life as a working dog. Dear Abbie: Whenever I’m out socializing with my raiser, he gives me huge corrections, yells NO and gives me commands so loudly that everyone stops and looks at us as if I’m a really bad dog. I’m doing the best that I can and I feel embarrassed to be seen as so naughty in public. There must be a better way! –Chagrined Dear Chagrined: Your raiser needs to soft-pedal the negativity with you, and especially when you are out in public. You two may be the first and only Guide Dog team that many people will ever encounter, and you’ll make a lasting impression. If your raiser is giving loud commands and corrections, people will think poorly of you, and may even think that it is cruel to make a dog work for a blind person, or that service dogs are out of control and shouldn’t be allowed in public places. Tell your raiser to practice using positive techniques whenever you train or socialize. If you start to get distracted, he could try a cheerful “let’s go” instead of yelling NO. If you know your commands, he should use a soft tone and give you time to comply before jerking you into position. If you don’t make an effort to sit or down when asked, then he can follow up with a gentle collar reminder instead of a huge correction. Working guides must think for themselves, and sometimes even disobey commands if it will put the team in danger. If your raiser |